What caused Rosalie’s Down syndrome

26 Jan

Sometimes, don’t you wish you could just go back in time? Do you replay a conversation over and over in your head & think about what you WISH you would have said? That has been me lately.
I wanted to use this blog to raise awareness of Down syndrome and I have not done that at all really. An encounter I had recently inspired me to get back into it because a lot of folks still have a lot to learn. And the more people learn, the better life will be for my sweet girl & her awesome friends.20140126-214031.jpg

The conversation I had recently went something like this:

Other person: “So did they ever determine what caused ‘IT’ in Rosalie? The Down syndrome? Like, was it you or Will? Or something you did? Or is it in your family?”

Me: I could just feel my blood pressure rising as I tried to kindly answer, “No, Down syndrome is…”

Other person: “Because so-and-so has two people in their family….well, they aren’t “Down syndrome” but they are “something else…” [Just a note- NO ONE “is Down syndrome.” They HAVE Down syndrome. Down syndrome isn’t what or who Rosalie is. SHE IS ROSALIE & SHE IS A PERFECT HUMAN BEING.]
Me: Trying to calm the voice in my head that is screaming at this person, I tried to get a word in before they could say anything else….”No, Down syndrome is a completely random occurrence. It’s not inherited and it has nothing to do with anything Will or I did.”

I don’t even remember what was said after that. I know they did not mean any harm at all. Sometimes people just don’t know what to say & I was once that person (I still am in other situations). But I just wanted to get out of there before this person said anything else to make me feel like I possibly could be responsible for my child being born with Down syndrome. I’m not going down that road.

What I wish I would have said…..

“It’s a completely random occurrence & WE HIT THE JACKPOT!!!!!” There is not a single thing I would change about this child. Who cares WHY or HOW Rosalie has Down syndrome? The fact is, she has it, & it’s not going away, but it’s only a part of who she is.

That reminds me of another question I was asked recently by someone I met. When I told the person that Rosalie had Down syndrome, he did not know what it was so I tried to explain it to him. He looked at me, so concerned, and asked, “but she’ll grow out of it, right?” I thought he might cry when I told him that extra chromosome wasn’t going anywhere. It is definitely nothing to cry about! It’s not bringing Rosalie down, that’s for sure!

But back to what causes Down syndrome. According to the National Down Syndrome Society (ndss.org),
“Down syndrome is usually caused by an error in cell division called “nondisjunction.” Nondisjunction results in an embryo with three copies of chromosome 21 instead of the usual two. Prior to or at conception, a pair of 21st chromosomes in either the sperm or the egg fails to separate. As the embryo develops, the extra chromosome is replicated in every cell of the body. This type of Down syndrome, which accounts for 95% of cases, is called trisomy 21.” There is no hereditary component in Trisomy 21.

It’s just how God knitted her in my womb. He has big plans for her & I believe He is already using her for great things. She has certainly changed my life.
There are also two other much less common types of Down syndrome, mosaicism & translocation. In one-third of cases resulting from translocation, there is a hereditary component.

To learn more, the National Down Syndrome Society has some great info.

A great post over at Noah’s Dad: http://noahsdad.com/did-i-cause-down-syndrome/


8 Responses to “What caused Rosalie’s Down syndrome”

  1. Keri January 27, 2014 at 9:16 am #

    You amaze me my dear cousin. Rosalie is such a gift from God! I am so excited to see her journey through life. Hugs!

  2. Lindsay January 27, 2014 at 9:30 pm #

    I feel more educated already. And if Rosalie was any cuter, I’m pretty sure I’d gobble her up myself. Especially in that little hat in that little car. Love you guys!!!

    • sogamom January 28, 2014 at 5:13 am #

      Love you, friend!! 🙂

  3. Beverly January 27, 2014 at 9:38 pm #

    Christina, I’ve known you and your family since you were a little girl and I’m so proud of the young woman, young Mother you are! Rosalie is a blessing AND she is blessed! We don’t understand all the ups and downs, valleys and mountain tops God allows in our life, but what we can KNOW is that He has a plan for EVERY life! You are so right…He has BIG plans for you and Rosalie. Just look at the pure JOY on her face!!… we could all learn a lesson right there! Keep writing, encouraging and telling your story…you’re reaching people in ways you never knew possible! Be blessed always!

    • sogamom January 28, 2014 at 5:15 am #

      Thank you so much, Mrs. Beverly! Love you!

  4. Cassandra September 4, 2014 at 7:46 pm #

    I found your blog through Natalie Falls and am very glad I found you. Thank you for being honest and for opening the eyes of people who wouldn’t necessarily think about these things. My brother in laws twin has Down syndrome and its exciting to read these blogs that share to others what a blessing it actually is and how it can change the way we view the world around us in a positive way. He is 30 and definitely didn’t have people stepping up to be vulnerable and stand up for him etc. so thank you for opening your heart

    • sogamom September 5, 2014 at 11:00 am #

      Thank you so much for your kind words! It is really encouraging to know that it is being read & hopefully helping change the hearts & minds of those who have never been as fortunate as you & me to love & know someone with Down syndrome! 🙂 I really need to write more, I haven’t update the blog in months, so your words are really more encouraging than you know! 🙂

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